COMING OUT

 

COMING OUT IS A METAPHOR FOR SELF DISCLOSURE OF ONE’S SEXUAL ORIENTATION OR OF THEIR SEXUAL IDENTITY

THERE IS A FAIR AMOUNT OF ADVICE OUT THERE FOR LGBT PEOPLE
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REACHOUT.COM
BELONG.ORG

IF IT’S YOU WHO IS COMING OUT

REMEMBER
CHOOSE THE RIGHT TIME – DON’T FEEL RUSHED BY ANYONE
CHOOSE THE RIGHT PERSON TO SPEAK TO- SOMEONE YOU TRUST AND WHO YOU KNOW REALLY LOVES YOU
DON’T LABEL YOURSELF
READ ABOUT THE EXPERIENCE OF OTHERS
FORGET ABOUT STEREOTYPES
BE YOU

IF YOU ARE THE TRUSTED ONE

YOU MAY WORRY THAT YOU WILL SAY THE WRONG THING
YOU DON’T NEED TO HAVE ANY PARTICULAR ANSWER
THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS TO SHOW ACCEPTANCE AND
TO REMEMBER THAT NOTHING HAS CHANGED ABOUT THIS PERSON
THEY HAVE JUST CONFIDED IN YOU

WORTH ASKING THEM IF THERE IS ANYTHING THEY WOULD LIKE YOU TO DO OR ANYONE THEY WOULD LIKE YOU TO TELL

PARENTS

SOME PARENTS ALREADY HAVE A SENSE THAT THEIR SON OR DAUGHTER IS LGBT SO THERE MAY BE NO SURPRISE AND THEY WILL ALREADY HAVE ADJUSTED TO THE NEW REALITY

OTHER PARENTS CAN BE ENTIRELY SHOCKED AND HAVE NO PRE-KNOWLEDGE OR WARNING.
THESE PARENTS AND FAMILY MEMBERS CAN HAVE ADJUSTMENT ISSUES WHICH CAN BE REALLY DIFFICULT ALL AROUND
THEY WORRY ABOUT THEIR CHILD’S FUTURE , THE HASSLES , THE ATTITUDES OF SOCIETY, THE CHALLENGES, THE HURDLES.

SADNESS – THEY CAN FEEL SAD AND MOURN THE LOSS OF A FUTURE THAT THEY THOUGHT ABOUT , WEDDINGS, CHILDREN … OF COURSE NOW THAT DREAM IS NOT GONE, BUT AT FIRST IT MAY FEEL THAT WAY

THE ONE COMING OUT CAN FEEL ALL THIS UNSPOKEN PRESSURE, THEIR DISAPPOINTMENT CAN BE CRUSHING AND OVERWHELMING FOR THE LGBT PERSON
SOMETIMES PARENTS QUERY IF IT’S TRUE, AND CHALLENGE THEIR DAUGHTER OR SON, BELIEVING THAT MAYBE THEY ARE COMING OUT TOO EARLY AND THEY COULDN’T BE SURE.

REMEMBER ITS ALSO A GENERATIONAL THING .
PARENTS WERE BROUGHT UP IN A TIME WHEN BEING GAY WAS UNLAWFUL , HIDDEN AND SCORNED UPON.

20 YR OLDS HAVE BEEN BORN IN TO THIS OPENNESS

AS A SOCIETY WE HAVE COME A LONG LONG WAY IN 30 YEARS.

BE GENTLY WITH THOSE WHO CANNOT MOVE AS QUICKLY AS YOU..

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